We all share an unconscious core program called the Separation Program, which I feel to be the ’Mother of all Addictions’, and the true source of all pain in the world. The Separation Program, and the resultant False-Core Conclusions and False-Core Compensators, may be the main underlying cause of all addiction, and unless this is addressed that complete recovery may not be possible. Factors of this are addressed in the 12 Step Programs. We all suffer from it, but it is expressed in those of us with addictions, (nearly everyone), by use of substances and behaviors in the effort to escape the pain of the illusion of separation.
The Separation Program is evident from the slightest disapproval we have toward ourselves and others, to the most depraved cruelty expressed in murder, slavery, genocide, suicide, and every form of human unconsciousness we have witnessed throughout history, and continue to witness on a daily basis in the world and in our personal lives. It is the origin of all pain and discord within us as individuals, and is out pictured in the pain and discord experienced in families, and in wars between nations.
Within the understanding of the Separation Program and its expression within us and our world is the promise of the true recovery from addiction, stress, disease and suffering and the experience true health and wellbeing.
Dr. Stephen Wolinsky from ‘Waking From the Trance’, articulates the nature of this core program shared by us all:
“According to what the field of psychology calls Object Relations, an infant believes that he or she is one with the mother. At approximately five to twelve months the infant realizes that they are separate, which produces a shock called ‘the trauma of the realization of separation’. Quantum Psychology takes this understanding one step further by postulating that due to this trauma the nervous system- to understand and organize this shock- decides that the shock occurs for a reason. The reason (or ‘conclusion) becomes what is called a False Core- or the prime concept, belief, or idea that you have about yourself around which you organize everything you experience in life.
This False-Core Conclusion then masks or hides your essential core and acts as a driver of your personality. Following the creation of a False-Core Conclusion, the nervous system produces a False-Self Compensator in an attempt to ensure that the trauma of the realization of separation shock never occurs again, and as a way to hide, heal and protect itself from the pain of the initial trauma. The False-Self Compensator is created as a “solution” to the problem of the False-Core Conclusion.”
The following is a list of the most common False-Cores and compensatory False-Selves, as taught by this program.
False-Core Conclusions False-Self Compensators
- There is something wrong with me. – I must be perfect.
- I am worthless. – I must prove my worth.
- I cannot do. – I must overdo.
- I am inadequate. – I must prove I am adequate.
- I do not exist. – I must prove my existence.
- I am alone. – I must connect.
- I am incomplete. – I must become complete.
- I am powerless. – I must be overly powerful.
- I am unlovable. – I must be overly loving.
- I am out of control. – I must control the chaos.
- I am crazy. – I must be sane.
- I am trapped. – I must get free.
- I am not safe. – I have to create safety.
Awareness of this is the beginning of freedom. I utilize this understanding as a beginning of transmuting who we perceive ourselves to be. This helps to crack the illusion, and begins to opens us up our hearts and who we really are. Love and happiness is our true nature. Check out my next post on The Power of Love.